You can pick your friends; you can’t pick your family.
Overall, friends will be there more often than family .
Lovetoknow.com says, “Research indicates that having good friends is tied to better mental and physical health outcomes. With that said, every circumstance is unique, and it’s up to you to figure out which relationships in your life feel fulfilling, supportive, and loving, regardless if they are with a family member or friend.” You can pick the friends that always show up for you no matter what you can’t do the same for your family. Some will not show up for you even when you need them most. Therefore, it’s important to pick the right people no matter if they are friends or family. Also, choosing your friends leads to feeling less obligation because you don’t have to deal with family duties, and you have a lot more mutual interest because you chose them to be your friends.
Some families will love you unconditionally no matter what, even for your flaws. The ties you have with your family are with you no matter what. Your mom will always be your mom. You can’t change that, but that can also be a bad thing if your family is unhealthy because it can cause a lot of problems with your mental health. It can be hard because you feel like you have to fix your relationships even if they are unhealthy because they are family. But with friends, you chose them based on the actions and effort they put into your friendship.
What needs to change is people picking their family over friends when their family gives them no reason to. Choose the people that pick you not because you feel obligated to.
You can pick your friends that show up for you no matter what even when your family does not.
